We will resist the invitation to make nice by taking our eyes off the prize and mouthing the platitude that “of course, there is still so much more to be done for women and girls.” Instead, we will gently but firmly assert that we will be pleased to achieve in the next ten, twenty or thirty years for fathers, men and boys even half of what has been achieved in the past ten, twenty or thirty years for mothers, women and girls.

We will take confidence in knowing that male-friendly women will be glad and relieved to see fathers, men and boys standing up for themselves in a strong, firm, confident, gentle way. We will keep in mind the words of Robert Bly in his book Iron John: “A good fight gets things clear, and I think women long to fight and be with men who know how to fight well.”

We will not disparage the “Manosphere” as a whole. We will acknowledge that, like any metropolis, the Manosphere has good people and bad. We will point out that telling people how bad they are does not serve to make them better. Moreover, we can rightly suggest that most people who speak ill of the Manosphere know very little of what its more thoughtful citizens have to say.

We will take heart in reminding ourselves that cultural change is difficult, even threatening to some. We will keep in mind that the Women’s Movement would have been totally ineffective if it had been afraid or even just reluctant to put forth sincere, honest, heartfelt, female points of view for fear that some vociferous men didn’t want to hear them.

We will not waste our time and resources arguing with people whose job includes helping us waste our time and resources. We know we have no obligation to engage in discussion with people we have no reason to trust. When dealing with members of the media, we will recognize that asking hard questions is a legitimate part of their job and we will engage with them patiently as long as they listen open-mindedly.

When accused of misogyny we will respond that the most potent cause of hatred and distrust of women today is overuse of the word misogyny because name-calling is the exact opposite of listening respectfully and empathically to our feelings and experiences in a way that helps reduce our misgivings.

At every opportunity we will challenge the idea that Big Femma accurately represents the wishes of most American women. We will live-stream debates between male-friendly women and professional feminists, or between male-friendly women and AI agents trained in hegemonic feminist orthodoxy.

We will cooperate with the National Parents Organization in educating the public about the overwhelming ​body of research clearly judging a rebuttable presumption of equal shared parenting to be the best custody arrangement for children of divorce.

We will call attention to the Wicked Brew of social work education, social work’s lack of gender diversity, and the domestic violence industry’s ideological biases in testifying as supposedly expert witnesses in contested divorces.

1. We will officially challenge the charter of the Council on Social Work Education​ (CSWE) to be the sole accrediting body for schools of social work in the United States. We will cite CSWE’s utter failure to address the lack of gender diversity among social work students and CSWE’s annual Feminist Scholarship awards.

2. We will call attention to the impunity domestic violence agencies have in continuing to receive federal funding despite repeated and widespread audit failures.

We will propose an alternative to the current advocacy of improving boys’ educational achievement. We will query whether when boys hear that they need to do better in school what they really hear is “they want me to go to school so I can get a job and make money so girls and young women will find me attractive so they can have more life options and I can continue making money and have fewer.” In this effort we will cite the expanding body of research into boys’ and fathers’ growing wish for work/life balance and respect for their emotional, relational lives.

To help boys and young men feel that higher education is indeed something they should consider, and not a hostile environment for them, we will facilitate legitimate discussions to alleviate boys’ fear of being accused of sexual harassment or “inappropriate” sexual behavior. We will dare to include discussion of whether there is any such thing as inappropriate sexual behavior or sexual expressiveness by girls and women.

We will support boys’ and young men’s happiness by helping girls and young women appreciate the non-economic value of fathers in creating happy families and healthy kids. We will help young women appreciate how work/life balance for themselves depends in the long run on work/life balance among men. Given the recent research showing that parenthood is more of a priority among young men than among young women, showing boys a reachable picture of being a father could be a more effective suicide-reduction strategy than showing them plausible images of success in the Provider role.

We will help boys see that girls who prioritize men’s earning potential over their emotional intelligence and social skills are more than just a little old-fashioned and sexist, and are not likely to be good mates. We will help young men develop the confidence and power of saying “No, you’re not the kind of partner I want.”

We will help boys and young men who prioritize unpaid fathering safeguard their financial situations in the event of divorce. Much work needs to be done in the states to overcome discrepancies between financial protections for divorcing women and men.

It is an aspiration for FatherPower to sponsor a competition for an expression (written, video, music, any form) of “My Future As a Father.”

FatherPower will connect the dots at every opportunity to show the connection between problems faced by Fatherhood and issues that people already care about. [On taxes: National Fatherhood Initiative’s The $154 Billion Dollar Man]. On immigrants coming to the USA to flee gang violence often resulting from fatherlessness among boys and young men: Latin America “has the highest share of single-parent households in the world, the great majority headed by mothers.”]

We observe that MotherPower is alive and well, but overworked. MotherPower needs FatherPower as its partner.

This final tactic will help us show that we, at least most or a plurality of us, are not rigid in our support for fatherhood. At the same time, we can also demonstrate how conflict can produce creative solutions for difficult problems. One of the reasons father partisans in general are disliked and distrusted by women’s advocates is that we are seen as demanding and insisting absolutely that every family must have a father. We understand and accept that fathers die, we know that some fathers abandon their families of their own volition. We acknowledge also that not every father is a good father, any more than every mother is a good mother. So why do so many among us have such a hard time with the idea of Lesbian couples raising children? We should adopt a biodiversity framework for our conundrum. The health of an ecosystem is not dependent upon every square yard or every cubic meter being identical. What is more important is that the ecosystem is robust and able at a distance to access what it needs. What is important for FatherPower is that it be plentiful, valued and used for all the good it can do. Some of us worry that every Lesbian hates her father or men in general. This is most assuredly untrue. We can trust and we can help Lesbian parents to appreciate and utilize FatherPower. We need only propose that if there is a biological father or a long-term stepfather in the picture, he should be included as the most likely high-quality source of FatherPower for his kids.